People were born with emotion and will. This is the reason why there’s a temperament. Is it becoming a problem? There’s no excuse, all are born with a temper. But being hot-tempered becomes a problem for so many people. I’m also a victim of being a hot-tempered person before, and I don’t like it. The Bible stated this beautiful quote in Prov. 22:24-25, “Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul (NLT).” It’s clear that being hot-tempered cannot do anything good for our soul. It is a trap, and it is hard to escape from its snare. It’s a huge problem.
People can’t live in anger all the time for we are not designed to be men of anger. The danger of being drowned with anger is the loss of focus. He might not be in his normal state of condition and may do things that will put his lives in danger as well as others. The whole body gets tense and consumes a lot of energy. It is tiring and may cause a lot of stress.
Therefore, when you feel disappointed and frustrated with someone else, think first. Do some preparation to prevent you to anger. Walk away, cover your mouth and do some inhale-exhale breathing to calm you down.
Drink fluids or water. Go to the restroom and wash your face to cool you down. Contact your closest friend to seek advice, and at the same time you may unload your anger gradually.
It’s better if a person will make some preparation to avoid becoming a hot-tempered person by doing the following:
- Invest time by reading inspirational and motivational books.
- Avoid watching horror and suspense-thriller film, watch fun-filled and inspiring movies instead.
- Listen to your favorite music (not rock music).
- Do your hobbies, spend your regular activity that you love for enjoyment.
Some of these hobbies are collecting items or objects, singing, dancing, performing arts, playing a musical instrument and engage in arts such as paintings, sculpting, photography, printmaking and other visual media. Outdoor activities are gardening, hiking, backpacking, cycling, climbing, fishing, hunting, watersports and others. Aside from what I’ve mentioned, there’s still a lot of things that you can do to keep you focus and busy on what you’re doing.
The best is to correct your inner self, you might have the past and present experiences or situation that triggers you to be angry all the time. Some people may have an anxiety, jealousy, insecurities, sickness, frustration in life, traumatic experiences or personality disorder. It may not be easy to control anger but it’s possible. If there is Life, there is Hope. Don’t let anger controls you, instead you control the anger.
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry” Ephesians 4:26 (NIV)
Always ask yourself this question: Why am I so angry? What is my problem? What triggers me to be angry? Know yourself, if you don’t know your self-identity, start right now before it’s too late to change.
“If you are angry, you’re a human; if you know how to overcome anger, you’re wise”
For more and complete “what to do,” check out my “Anger Defeated” ebook.